When you see this quote, you might be wondering what is the difference between “Good at Listening” and “A Good Listener”. If I ask a question, Are you good at listening? You would say “YES” which is correct. But If I ask, are you a good listener? What is your answer and how true is it?
Few months ago, I went for a seminar on Business Psychology and the audience were asked, “Who all are good listeners?”. I was shocked to see that everyone raised their hands. Seriously, “Is everyone in that audience good listeners?” Kept me thinking!! I guess they didn't actually understand the question correctly. :) however I think most of them raised their hands just as a reply to the question, which was “YES”
We all listen… we listen to sound, we listen to music, we listen to people, we listen to TV and the list goes on… That makes us good at listening but does that make you a good listener? Think about it. If we are all good listeners, would there ever be an argument or a conflict? Would things be misunderstood or assumed wrongly. NO !!!! Don't you think life would be a very positive place to live, if we were all good listeners? Think About it !!!!
A person who is good at listening would listen to anything and everything which might be good or bad for him and reacts before & without understanding it. However, a good listener always tries to understand what he is listening to, gives it time and full attention, sees it from the other person's perspective, replies as required, which at the end would bring out a positive outcome.
Now a days people are listening, but how and to what extend do they listen to others. We tend to hear first few words and Bang!!!! give a reply instantly . The main problem is we are all getting busy and we don't get enough time which is actually making us bad listeners. Tell me when did you last sit with your child and listen to everything what they had to say by giving full attention. We see some parents watching TV and listening to their child at the same time. On the other hand, have also seen children looking at their tablet and listening to parents. Is this listening? Did this style of listening start from parents or children? How much are to trying to understand what others are really trying to tell you??
If parents and children start to be good listeners the whole family will start living a positive life.
Don’t you think if we listen and try to understand what others are really trying to tell, then every conversation would have a calm and positive ending. Think about all the conversations you had with your child or parent? Start being a good listener and create positivity in your life. So are you good at listening or a Good Listener?
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